Tribute to Dad

Best Dad Award…

This time…it’s Dad’s turn to be acknowledged… The one person that has been through it all with me…

• Yg kena marah bila mood swing Ibu datang tak semena-mena…ayah jugak…
• Yang kelam kabut pergi beli nasi ayam yg Ibu nak… ayah jugakkk…
• Yang buatkan milo bila Ibu nak minum buat kali yang ke berapa ntah…ayahhh jugak…
• Yang kena cengkam kuat masa Ibu deliver Hazel…ayahhh jugak…
• Yang kena jaga Asyraaf bila Ibu kerja on public holidays…ayahhh jugakk
• Yang jaga Ibu dalam pantang…ayahhh jugak…
• Yang bangun malam buatkan susu anak…ayahhh jugakk…
• and the list goes on…

So in this entry… I just want to say to my husband… thank you for all that you have done… We love you…very much … :-)

I am not like many where they can depend on their moms on almost everything. For me, everything lies with my husband. And I am in many sense independent in life. I can’t turn to my parents if I get stuck so my husband is all I’ve got. Therefore along the course of our marriage we lean on each other and pretty much survive on the existence and support of each other. And alhamdulillah… we have managed it so far… i hope Allah will bless this marriage that we have got until we die…

P/s: Ayah…nak millooo?? hihihi…

Love,

Ibu, Asyraaf & Hazel

2 Years Down...Another ** To Go...!

Our marriage turned 2 on 13th of August this year.

Alhamdulillah... We are weaving through our lives , still learning about each other and experiencing the ups and downs...together. Learning what makes our other half ticks and what makes him smile. Marriage is as unpredictable as the wind. But it pays when you cry and turn to the next person beside you, knowing he loves you the way you are, just because...

Someone once said to me : Marriage is work in progress...How that is true yer dear husband..? :-) I love you and hope our marriage will last as Allah permits...insya-Allah... This year it was just a movie and a meal at chilis...only the two of us...( a luxury we try to have once in a while * sigh)

Sharing with all of you this article I once got through email. It helps a lot when the rainy days come...it makes me think... and learn... So here it is ...

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,'How do I know if I married the right person?' I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said,'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?' Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer. EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit). Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything.That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU. People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome(when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this): THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression 'the labor of love.'Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity),there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make' love. Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling. Remember this always: 'Allah determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'

Good luck fellow 'marriage-mates'! :-)

Just Because...

I once watched a Japanese movie called Beautiful Life, and actually it wasn't beautiful at all to our unseeing eyes... The heroine was a crippled young girl but with a big heart to give to a guy who was ignorant to life's blessings. But at the end of it the girl died leaving the man a changed man for life. I cried reflecting how sometimes we take things in our life for granted till it became too late. Beautiful is how you make it, how you see it, not how you want it to be. There will always be ups and downs in life for we are humans, but your life should be beautiful to you...JUST BECAUSE... I have always been a fan of lights...and it was a surprise when Munir came with the suggestion to go to this place, the Lookout Point. It was near Hulu Langat at a place called Menara Tinjau. We had to go up a winding hill to get there. It was to celebrate our first year anniversary of our marriage. Yup...one whoolee year...*grin, we finally made the first year LOL. It was breathtaking view up there, one whole new world all on it's own...I gazed and gazed and could've have went on gazing had it not been for the realization we had to pick Asyraaf up later...:-) The food was so-so...but the view compensated for the lack of taste in the food. I wasn't paying much attention to it anyway. We spent a few hours and talked, just like we used to do during the 'dating' days...(it feels soooo looong ago). It maybe wasn't as lavish a night to any other people, but for me, it was a perfect one. I am happy I am still alive and well, and given this beautiful day to share with a loving husband and a child to complement the meaning of every single day...I am thankful again for this blessing... and I realized that my life is complete now...I have everything I have ever wished for...and I hope it will last for as long as we live...Insya-Allah. For you Abang, I thank God I met you... never would've I have thought I would have all this had it not been for you coming just at the right moment in my life. I guess there is a reason why things were the way they were, why things happened, why something was taken away, and given back to me...there is always a reason for every single thing...JUST BECAUSE... And to top it off...I was dedicated this song by Munir... Thank you Abang for such a perfect night...

"Everything"

You're a falling star, you're the get away car.

You're the line in the sand when I go too far.

You're the swimming pool, on an August day.

And you're the perfect thing to say.

And you play it coy, but it's kinda cute.

Ah, when you smile at me you know exactly what you do.

Baby don't pretend, that you don't know it's true.

Cause you can see it when I look at you.

And in this crazy life, and through these crazy times

It's you, it's you, you make me sing.

You're every line, you're every word, you're everything.

You're a carousel, you're a wishing well,

And you light me up, when you ring my bell.

You're a mystery, you're from outer space,

You're every minute of my everyday.

And I can't believe, uh that I'm your man,

And I get to kiss you baby just because I can.

Whatever comes our way, ah we'll see it through,

And you know that's what our love can do.

And in this crazy life, and through these crazy times

It's you, it's you, you make me sing

You're every line, you're every word, you're everything .

So, la, la, la, la, la, la, la So, la, la, la, la, la, la, la

And in this crazy life, and through these crazy times

It's you, it's you, you make me sing.

You're every line, you're every word, you're everything.

You're every song, and I sing along.

'Cause you're my everything.

So, la, la, la, la, la, la, la So, la, la, la, la, la, la, la

Posted by eddina at 23:39 5 comments 6.8.07